The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.
8m ago TheRedPill
@Problematic_Browser Mate... I would say on the contrary I've seen many many many many men who are in that situation. Sexless marriages. As common as it gets is it not? Sad reality of the western world.
@Freespiri If you're not fucking, you're just friends.
And no man is going to make the level of sacrifice that a marriage requires for anyone who is just a friend.
2h ago TheRedPill
@Problematic_Browser I remember hearing in RP when I was younger (And not just RP but in more mainstream convo) the idea that a healthy romantic relationship must include a healthy amount of sex. Quality over quantity sure, but both the man and the woman should want it and both should initiate it.
As I reach 37, I'm now absolutely sure of this. Both should experience the shared pleasure, both should find it connects them, helps alleviate stress, helps to remind each other of what matters. Its a stress reliever that is shared. I do think Men need it more than women and good women realise this and accomodate for it, just as the man may not care for having a tidy household but keeps it tidy for her needs.
Red pill lesson: "You get what you accept."
One of the lessons I learned from my failed marriage is this: you get what you accept.
My ex was not forthcoming with sex. And that's putting it in a nice way. I recall a conversation we had before we were engaged, and I told her "The amount of sex we're having is going to have to increase or this isn't going to go well".
She made assurances that it would be better after we were married, and I foolishly believed her. I accepted the present conditions and pushed forward.
Needless to say, the sex not only didn't improve, it declined.
My mistakes here were:
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Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.
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Women do not put in effort for things they have. They put in effort for things they don't.
- You get what you accept. (Which is what I'm going to go into)
You see, if you give a woman something on the conditions that she give you something later, you will never get what you want. If she is "on her weight loss journey" and you give her commitment, she'll be fat forever. If she's the kind to blow money but promises it will be better when she has access to your money, you'll die broke (and alone, because she'll divorce you). If she's the kind to ration sex, her behavior won't change when you capitulate.
When you give women what they want, the transaction has concluded. All promises of compensation or future changes to behavior are void. There are no exchanges, substitutions, or refunds. Get shit on incel.
Do not give a woman commitment on the promise of future behavior, especially if that behavior requires the woman to inconvenience herself. Demand the change in behavior before you offer commitment.
Read MoreThere was a bit of redundancy in there but yeah, this was mostly pertaining to the reddit side where it was originally posted.
Drive-byers are making it impossible to replace all of good writers and killing off our last ECs on there.
Now i will keep posting regardless but we're going to end up a sub without much content at this rate, so I'm just purging every single offender, no warning, because that's what they came into the sub for (as indicated by their sub lists)
1d ago TheRedPill
I agree with all of this - although you could have said it in about half the words.
Being a mod is not easy. Being an admin is tougher (although I have never been one).
Most people here DGAF. This is just recreation for them.
We also know that there are UberWhites, feminists, obese and mentally ill individuals who come here to "fight the man". That was inevitable.
So good on you for pushing back.
I have seen several forums, more than a few subs, and even an entire website (answerology.com) implode and go away - or just be banned/labeled, etc.
And all it takes is one loser. I don't think it is organic anymore. When one person starts uttering certain phrases, my radar goes off. I have seen the patterns too many times.
Keep up the good work. And be careful to not let your frustrations show. Emotion is not the way to administer a place like this.
Read MoreLink Preview didn't load how I wanted (again, only applies to TheRedPill tribe on this website, not a site ban here:
Immediately perma-banning any users with a net negative contribution on this sub (for rules 5 and 8) and my reasoning why
Net-negative: overall negative contribution outweighs positive contributions on here
Too many of you guys are saying "wuh happened sub? trolllolololololol" and incidentally, a lot of you guys are the exact reason "wuh happneed surb" happened. Part of the issue is a lot of OGs got banned for thought crimes, and many of them were mods. Attrition of the OGs and thus mods to keep the place in check was partly what happened to the sub, but another major reason "wuh hapin sooob duh hur" happened was because of A LOT OF YOU GUYS
SOME of YOU guys are what happened to sub and you wonder what happened to it. It's largely many of YOU. You have no original posts, no top-level comments, the ones you have are usually bad, if at all, and then come on to posts to critique a good faith writer (or worse, a flaired user [EC, 1, 2, 3 point-flair, MOD]) with the most low-effort dunking. You trash an ENTIRE 1-3 hour typing of a post, no actual critique on the portion you disagree with and often do it in the worst ways you can, usually in a singular low-effort sentence. They are flaired for a reason, because they earned their flairs from contribution and enduring critiques on their writing and having to defend their ideas (and YOU didn't). Even amongst non-flaired aspiring posters/writers this is remarkably unhelpful to writer growth, ESPECIALLY if you haven't written jack yourself.
Then we look at your sub list: you have nofap, NSFW pr0n subs, purple pill debate (you're not even RedPill), loads of video-gaming subs, askmen, addiction help subs, forever alone, incel, and a lot of other degeneracy I've come across looking at your sub list. ALMOST WITHOUT FAIL, it's like a 1:1 correlation. Why tf are some of you even on here at all?? Go join r /peanutgallery6969 if that's the quality of contribution you have to offer here.
Further, 95% of you I ban on these grounds as is respond in modmail (or worse my personal DM's, a violation of RULE 8) with "incel" ad hominems "oh no" "won't miss sub anyway" "sub trash" other completely random assumptions about my personal life, etc. Proving how much you didn't even care about the sub you are degrading to begin with, anyway. Maybe 5% or less of you try to salvage your sub membership post-ban, which is so low that I know EXACTLY what I'm banning and don't regret it for even a nano-second.
So from now on, I'm just immediately perma-banning (temp if I'm feeling extra-deluxe nice) anyone who is net-negative contributing to the sub on the grounds of rules 5 (**no insults: debate the ideas not the person) and 8 (address the community properly).**
Read MoreMy post on r/TheRedPill regarding the instant banning of people with net negative contributions in TheRedPill specifically (applies on the TheRedPill tribe here too)
However, I realize this site has more on it than just original content TheRedPill posts so this rule/post only applies to bans in TheRedPill tribe, unless you also harass me on DMs and show me why the ban should extend past TheRedPill tribe only.