The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.
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@Random_IT_Admin yeah, still married. Trying to uphold my vows yet still use dread game.
I agree in principle re: kids, but it's likely to end up a one-parent household at your expense. Women initiate divorce for the most frivolous of reasons, and almost always get custody by default.
@Typo-MAGAshiv, thanks. Are you still married now? The problem with that approach is that most high value women want marriage, and also I want children. I am very firm on my belief that children must be raised in a two-parent household, which typically means marriage (especially for Christians).
@Random_IT_Admin I'd recommend against marriage. The laws heavily favor women, even incentivizing them to divorce. With how moody and fickle they are, gambling your entire future on one of them remaining faithful isn't a good move.
I say all this as a Christian man who has been married for 15 years.
@Random_IT_Admin The question isn't whether or not you can be red pill. You can either see the truth and accept it, or spit it out. If you see the truth, you cannot unsee it. What you do with this information is your choice.
Yes, it's possible to maintain your faith and continue on your path. A word of caution: Your faith will give you blind spots and kneecap your strategy, so, just be careful.
Seems like after a certain age, your social circle becomes incredibly small unless you enter a LTR. How do you square this with TRP?
As you grow older, you witness what use to be your friend circle shrink down. Your boys, one by one, succumb to the LTR they get into. Their priorities change. They start doing things with other couples. When you’re with them, you’re the odd one there without a partner, assuming you’re even invited. LTR people don’t usually like doing things with single people. It’s weird. They do things with other couples.
For those who have run into this dilemma before, how did you face it?
Keep in mind, the advice of “Make new friends with single guys your age.” isn’t as easy applicable to everyone. Not everybody lives in LA or NYC and is nearby a conglomeration of successful single men. In most parts of the west, it seems that most single older men aren’t exactly happy or successful unless they’re rich or famous. They’re usually still single because they’re left behind and are at a terrible phase in life. I don’t want to be friends with these kinds of men.Read More
As a Christian man, is it really possible to be Red Pill?
Mostly RP male, late 30's. Still have some ingrained BP ideologies I need to ditch, admittedly. Divorce going through in a week or two. Separated last summer. My divorce with my ex has been extremely amicable, we just didn't want the same things - I want kids, she doesn't. FWIW, I'm (what I would consider) an above average looking guy and I've never had trouble getting dates and even getting laid. I'm 6 ft tall and have a 6-figure income. Not trying to brag (I'm anonymous anyhow), just laying groundwork for the post. Attractive women have always come pretty easy for me...
Here's my dilemma - I actually don't want to have sex with every woman I date. Crazy, I know /s. I'm a Christian and my values are important to me. I did (of course) have sex before I was married, but usually I was in a relationship with the woman. There were a few years in college and right after it that I tried just being a "player" and fucking random women - it left me feeling very empty and even depressed at points. So, as much as I agree with RP ideologies, I don't want to really "spin plates," or at least I don't want to be fucking multiple women all the time.
Part two of my situation is - I'm dating 4 women right now. I've been seeing one of them since last fall and we've been having sex. Of the 4, she's the only one that isn't Christian and doesn't want kids. Because of that I told her I am not interested in a relationship with her, thinking she would bail, but she didn't. So, we've still been hooking up, which I really need to stop doing (because it's going against my better judgement and my conscious). Now, the other 3 are probably not keen on sex before marriage...which is another problem too. I am not going to even consider proposing, let alone marriage with a woman if I don't know if we're sexually compatible. So, in that respect, I am 100% RP. One of the other 3 woman even says she is a virgin, but in her mid/late 20's I'm suspicious to if she's lying or not. Anyhow, that's another post...
I don't want to rush into another marriage, clearly that would be extremely foolish. However, at the same time I want to know if there IS potential for that...is this woman high value enough to be considered for marriage? A huge part of that is sexual, which, although it goes against the whole "no sex outside of marriage" Christian ideal, I personally adhere to - Even though I am Christian, I think it's extremely unrealistic and unwise to marry a person you've never had sex with. You're begging for problems. This post ended up being longer than I anticipated, so I'll wrap up...Much thanks if you read all this! :D
TL;DR - As a Christian man, is it really possible to be Red Pill? If so, how do you properly vet Christian women to see if they are potential for a LTR and possibly even marriage? I am going to say we will have sex once she is my girlfriend, and lots of (perhaps even most) Christian women are fine with this), but then it is clear that we are monogamous. TIA, all.Read More
@NelAraby4 don't tell your real name. You would have to register here with the same name as your reddit username to be reddit verified. Read the r/whereareallthegoodmen sidebar and here I give you a starter list of articles to progress forward. Good luck, bud.
Read these articles from Rollo Tomassi's website www dot therationalmale dot com
'How men love'
'How women love'
'Hypergamy doesn't care'
'Light Switch effect'
'Medium is the message'
'Mental Point of origin'
And read 'Boundaries' article from Rian Stone here : www dot rianstone dot com/blog/vetting1
This will solve everything you need to know. Bookmark them and read them one by one. I have been here for long enough and this is a good way for understanding female nature and how to re-constitute your mindset and self for the best. Especially if you are young like me.
If you are in a marriage or LTR where you have kids or house together and want to sort through a dead marriage, or leave the marriage such that you can sustain/rebuild yourself in the best possible way; then read about Dread from Rian Stone and r / marriedredpill sidebar. Good luck. This is probably all you need. The crux of the woman red pill theory. Mental Point of origin, Boundary Enforcement, Game and PUA is practical stuff derived from the red pill theory. Understand and practice it in real world. And more than anything, don't be fat and LIFT.Read More