@Saltycroc

It's easier for me to approach men than women.

I've always been fairly confident and have always spoke to pretty much everyone around me. Im popular at my gym and talk to pretty much anyone. I have no problem going up to guys and making friends with them easily.

For some reason, it's way way harder for me to approach women with the same energy. My brain and social skills kind of just turn off when it's a girl.

This is so weird because I have absolutely no problem going up to random guys and starting a convosation.

Ive started cold approaching, which has made me realise I have this problem.

How do I fix this/get out of this weird mindset that I have.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go

By considering that there's absolutely nothing wrong in realizing that the juice isn't worth the squeeze.

Interacting with other males, either online or in-person, will usually lead to more benign outcomes with no stress. You ask a few questions, you get a few replies, maybe a suggestion of a book to read and you continue on with your life.

However, with modern females this isn't possible as most are educated to see males as enemies at worst and competition at best. Whether that's good or bad, you'll have to decide for yourself.

@Kragzen

What did I do wrong?

I recently went on a date with a woman who was slightly older(36) than me(33). She worked as manager in a tech company(I am in defense and make more money than her but her salary was fairly close). Anyway for the date we went on a walk in a park, I wasn't feeling terribly connected but I decided to talk about kink(BDSM) stuff which she was receptive to. I ended up making out with her and fingering her off the trail(multiple times). We didnt have sex but in retrospect I am pretty certain she would of had I gone for it.

Anyway at the end of date she says she doesn't know if she wants to date me or not but she would let me know in a couple days, the next day she messages me and says she wasn't interested. The chick was kind of walking red flag in the context of LTR material(said she was single because no men measured up, dysfunctional relationship with her father, called herself sexually conservative but went to BDSM clubs).

I'm not so much bothered that relationship didnt work out(she was hot but starting to show her age and for a LTR I think I would want a younger girl) but I don't understand why she decided she never wanted to see me again. This isnt the first time I have seen extreme mood swings from women I did sex stuff with on the first date but in her case I don't understand what turned her off to going out again. The whole thing was pretty odd.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

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@Typo-MAGAshiv

That's odd. Are you sure they weren't Ukranian?

Forgot to answer this part. This happened in the mid to late '80s, though part of the short lived Reddit responses attempted to project current events and geopolitics onto the tale.

At the time, they mentioned Ukraine in passing maybe once or twice, but never specified identifying as "Ukrainian" much less ever corrected anyone on this point. They called themselves "Russian," and the Student Body referred to them as "The Russians." The American political zeitgeist from Reagan on down through the strongly anti-Russian Republican side of the aisle made no mention of Ukraine as any way separate or distinct from Russia, or its citizens from "The Russians."

The title made a snappy anchor as I thought back on this event and worked on the post in my mind, but the reactions to it make a pointed reminder that a couple of generations have come of age since then, each with a much different POV toward Russia as my son-of-boomers mindset