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@carnold03 so confused, dude. But I guess that's the point lol
Do hard stuff, fail, pick yourself up, try again, repeat
@joyboy I think you are making efforts and you will break through. There is a threshold of value that breaks into the bottom 20%, then there is one that gets you to the middle 60, then one for the top 20. Until you break the threshold, you will need huge luck, when you break the threshold, you pretty much can't fail to get a woman of that band. These are real glass ceilings. So don't quit.
Fear, poor self image and despair are not real things, they are emotional responses to information about real things.
Look for even small crumbs of the positive and celebrate them. Regard the failures as information, keep trying, altering your actions based on the incoming information and it will come together. Based on all I have seen its a mental issue with you, how you relate to women not anything else. This will correct with enough information and practise.
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*expects them to make your dreams come true instead of being a man*
Guys y can't I get any birches what I am doing wrong?
@Vermillion-Rx told myself this a hundred times. Idk why I just psych myself out every time. Like I convince myself I’m meant to be alone so might as well not try
Some of you guys are so scared of rejection you'd rather just reject yourself through inaction and feel like shit about it online later
Rejection is better than regret. Extremely simple concept in the rational male. Failure to shoot your shot has the same outcome as rejection.
You can either reject yourself or let fate reject you, and the latter doesn't always reject you.
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Kind of a necessary step of doing anything with women
Hey man, I'm going to need you to pop a chill pill, shut the fuck up and take a long, hard, serious look at what the average man is today.
Look at how they talk, act, dress, physically look, take a mental inventory and once you start compiling the average, if half of what you said above is true, you'll be well beyond you average man.
Don’t say “lift and dress well” I’m already lean with a good amount of muscle mass and dress fashionably, so I take care of my appearance and health. Don’t say “get your money up” I’m working two jobs + doing a second degree + a side hustle so I’m already working on that too. I need some legit advice or materials to read or something that will fix my retarded brain
None of that shit gives me confidence, having lived an exciting life does. Join a martial arts, become a fantastic guitarist, go on backpacking trip, just up and move to another location and start over.
I don't know what ruffles your feathers but find something in life to chase that isn't for materialistic gains or pussy but just the pleasure of developing a skill.
Confidence in my mind comes from action.
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