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is it normal to eventually marry a 21-25yo when you’re in your mid-late 30s?
I guess kinda building on my last question.
You see all those dumbass 30+ yo broads talkin about “where are all the good men” but then what about the fellas that don’t get married in early 20s?
I’ve been acutely aware of like divorce n shit from a young age (even though my parents thankfully never did) and I made my peace w the idea of not getting hitched till later in life. Mainly due to the way laws are written; as said often in redpill it’s a losing deal for the guys.
But is this going to be weird? If im like 36/37/38 years old or even 40-42 years old by the time I’m ready to settle down and let’s say I’ve been in an LTR w some chick in her early 20s… won’t her parents object or something? Is this the new norm in life?
Sorry I’m just hamstering right now
We try to discuss the interconnecting topic of relationships beyond Lover/Girlfriend/LTR such as marriage, family, and divorce quite often, but a very vocal segment of the users prefer discussing casual fornication, because they've otherwise had some seriously bad experiences with relationships and were deeply affected, if not traumatized, by them.
Contrary to what you may believe, it's actually the norm for men to court and marry women either years, or decades, younger than themselves. Particularly, if one of the mans goals is to have healthy offspring. That said, if one of your goals is to be married at some point in your life, especially if you also want to be a father to children, then it's best that when you're fully prepared for that stage of things, you prioritize finding those women who're both physically and mentally healthy, as well as sincere in their desire to be the wives of men and mothers to their future husbands children.
Yea, divorce is a big problem and can be devastating for everyone in the household, but according to the stats in circulation the bulk of the people who've done it are boomers and the pseudo-boomer segment of Gen X. The occurrence of divorce, while declining, doesn't diminish the need for men to understand what contributes to marriage failure and divorce. Most people have been dramatically affected by their parents divorces despite their brave face. This trauma is what drives much of the discussion on the topic and I think such discussions are good to have.
However, when you're ready for that phase of your life though, you're going to want to scrutinize the actions of the women you date and disqualify those who do things which you find put them in conflict with what you've come to understand is necessary for being good wives and mothers. So, if you want to court and marry some young fertile twenty something, when you're thirty, forty, or fifty something yourself, take some solace in knowing that many of us here have got your back.
Read More@lalola0101 this sounds like you have a lot to think about
I mean, no one can make this decision for you
2d ago Ask TRP
@Typo-MAGAshiv that's true.. it's just that I don't find her as interesting, pretty or attractive as before. She's 25 now and the other girl's 19/20 and the younger girl's personality and lifestyle suits mine more.
Need some help guys.
Would you guys pick:
- a girl who’s proven to love you and stuck with you through lowest points of your life, but you’re not attracted to.
- a girl who you’re attracted to (already fucked), but is still unvetted although they have shown positive qualities and potential.
- single life focused on myself
My main goal is to ensure I focus on my career and work to be the best, and I keep feeling that #1 might be optimal because the girl supports me, and I wouldn’t have to worry too much about girls/relationships etc. But i’m not attracted to her anymore, what do i do?
That depends on which you value more, the relationship with these women, or your professional success.
she does not want an open relationship, and honestly, i’m not sure if i can keep up with the guilt from cheating
Then don't.
Why do you not want her anymore? I mean, if she's proven loyal to you, that'll make her less easy to replace than the typical woman who adds nothing to your life but access to poon and turmoil.
4d ago Ask TRP
@Typo-MAGAshiv true. but the first woman is the one i’ve been in an LTR with for awhile. she does not want an open relationship, and honestly, i’m not sure if i can keep up with the guilt from cheating. should i just see both and continue cheating? the second girl is aware that i have a girlfriend already.
@lalola0101 who says you have to pick just one of the two women? Is there any reason you can't see them both?
And for the one who has proven her loyalty: why are you not attracted to her? Did she get fat? If so, can she not lose the weight if you lead her in that direction?
4d ago Ask TRP
Need some help guys.
Would you guys pick:
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a girl who’s proven to love you and stuck with you through lowest points of your life, but you’re not attracted to.
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a girl who you’re attracted to (already fucked), but is still unvetted although they have shown positive qualities and potential.
- single life focused on myself
My main goal is to ensure I focus on my career and work to be the best, and I keep feeling that #1 might be optimal because the girl supports me, and I wouldn’t have to worry too much about girls/relationships etc. But i’m not attracted to her anymore, what do i do?
How to feel less guilt after cheating with an escort?
Deadbedroom situation here. More because of me. She gained weight and doesnt really see that as a problem. I love her, but i need new body to have sex wtih. attractive one. Im gonna hire an escort, but i feel that I feel terribly guilty afterwards. But i am at the same time sure that it will make me love her more and get connected to her better. How to deal with the guilt?
From the lack in the mention of children in your household, is it safe to say you're not a parent? Did she know you weren't attracted to fat chicks before you two got hitched? Do you keep your own physique lean and svelte? Do you invite your wife to come with you to the gym, or otherwise let her know about women's gyms with fitness programs? When you two go out, do other women flirt with you despite her presence?
Honestly, if you've otherwise got no kids, or expecting any, depending on how long this has been going on, it might be just as well that you consider ending the marriage altogether. Take a few weeks to have no further sexual relations with her so you don't get ambushed with pregnancy coercion, while you look for an attorney, and a new place to move into. Then when you've gotten the attorney tasked to launch the suit, you have your stuff packed, and be otherwise gone.
Aside from that, you should consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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