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2y ago The Hub
Do you guys have any advice on dealing with revenge fantasies? One of my plates, I guess you could probably call it oneitis, walked out on me, and I sulked like a little bitch. It hasn't left my mind. I gave her closure and I didn't have any other plates at the time which is why I handled it badly. Now I just want her to suffer. I know it's petty and a waste of time but I've been waking up with anger every day now.
But why is it a red flag if they threaten you when you make them angry? I’d do the same if I was angry and couldn’t control my emotions. How is that a sign that the girl you’re dealing with is crazy?
Most people and especially most normal women don't threaten other people just because they are angry or upset. BPD/Narcissistic/Mentally unstable women threaten you. Decent/normal/nice women do not threaten you...... they might get upset, they might get exasperated, they might feel hurt - but they don't threaten you.
Looking back, the mentally unstable ones would make joking threats against me even in the good times. The better women never did this even when very upset.
Threats against other people are simply not normal or acceptable behaviour. The fact that you (chadinthemaking69) would also do this is not good. Not attacking you for this, but I think in some way you are normalising something that you've learned/internalised wrongly at some point in your past (possibly through too much involvement with bad women).
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