First, let's define some terms. (Answers are difficult or impossible without knowing precisely what you're talking about.)
Wisdom is the ability to make good decisions that further your goals.
Intelligence is the ability to understand and learn from information that is presented to you.
Experience is the repeated occurrence of having information presented to you that you can learn from.
So, it would seem that Intelligence + Experience = Wisdom, right?
Well, not quite. The ability to learn and the opportunity to learn are both necessary, but in order to actually learn, you also have to do the work of learning. This means you have to remove impediments to learning (such as emotional attachment to what you already know, prideful unwillingness to admit ignorance, etc), and to actually think about what you have experienced and what the lessons are.
Any time you make a decision, watch the outcome. Did it get you what you wanted? Why or why not? Are your decisions intended to further them, or to make you feel good? Did they help? Think about your goals. What are they? Are they what you really want, or are they just some proxy for it, something that you think will get you the thing you really want?
Becoming wise requires time, but it doesn't automatically happen with time. You have to work to profit from the lessons you are exposed to.
Read More@Whisper How did you get so wise? I’ve read some of your posts on The Red Pill and, not to blow smoke up your ass, you seem very well rounded. How did you get to where you are now?
@chadinthemaking69 That's fine, and I don't want to come across as "it was wrong of you" to troll them. Just understand the opportunity cost to yourself, and the potential wide area dispersed costs to "the manosphere." If you still find occasions where trolling seems best to you, wallow in it.
@MentORPHEUS You have a good point. I’ll find something better to do with my time
@chadinthemaking69 "Just trolling" is a personal waste of time in and of itself. Looking at the big picture, "trolling" like that in feminist subs works against men like the ones on TRP.RED who struggle because of hardened and ingrained opinions against men in general and work to improve our lot. In exchange for the few minutes of self-indulgent "fun" trolling, you move the misandry needle upward in large numbers of women and self-appointed feminist allies.
One lesson I've learned early on in politics and activism: You almost NEVER get to witness someone changing their mind and admitting it to you on the spot, when you challenge their existing beliefs. Instead of aiming for a decisive "win" by trolling, or banging skeptics over the head with your different idea until they switch positions or exit the encounter "like sheeple," learn the zen of sharing your position and reasons for believing it, then stop and leave it at that.
Same goes with trying to "red pill" a buddy, especially in the middle of a relationship crisis they're going through. It's easy to unwittingly become too evangelical in your approach, driving away even friends and allies with that process. Given this, you really have to manage your expectations about watching nominal enemies change their minds right before your eyes.
Sometimes it's months or years later, when someone will confide, yeah you were right that time. In the heat of the moment? Almost never.
Read More@MentORPHEUS I was just trolling but I’ll keep it in mind for the future
@chadinthemaking69 The post has gotten removed, but the best I can tell from quotes in the thread, the OP had a disingenuous kind of a "Greetings, fellow women!" vibe to it. Also it looks to have consisted of a large gunny sack of complaints, which become easier to wave off entirely as they become more numerous.
If you want to engage more long term and with a chance of reaching and maybe changing minds, stick to one main topic per post. Also, wherever possible try to write to the perspective of those whose minds you're trying to change, and invoking their self-interests. This in accordance with Heinlein's quote, "Don't try to appeal to a (hu)man's "better nature," for they might not HAVE one. Invoking (their) self-interest gives you more leverage.
With bots and admins and activist and paid staff, reddit is now just as fake as twitter.
Reddit activists remind me of market makers. They just watch and wait. If a stock starts sliding, they swoop in to "provide liquidity" (in reality they just keep the price afloat for the benefit of the company they represent)
So too do Reddit wingnuts just wait for any pro-male or anti-female content and all it takes is 3-5 different user accounts to crap on the content, and a few dozen upvotes and viola! Thread hijacked.
Brigading still happens too, but the link above appears to be manipulated in the way I desrcibed.
That's why I don't go there anymore. It's just a wasteland of whackadoos.
It always was fake.
I decided to troll the askfeminist subreddit and holy fuck. I don’t know a lot about marriage divorce but they’re making it seem like it isn’t as bad as some of the stories I’ve heard.