@king10

Books to read after Sidebar

I've read the sidebar on the redpill subreddit, can someone give me a solid guide on anything else I should read? Should I read the top articles on the redpill subreddit? Or The rational male book? Or is just the sidebar enough?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Artila

Plate doing nuclear comfort tests/something else?

Been spinning this plate for about a year and there's oneitis involved now, I was thinking about promoting to ltr. This bitch is very scarce when it comes to shittests but comfort tests ALL the time. She's painfully insecure, and it doesn't help that my lifestyle naturally fuels dread I guess.

A week ago we went out and had a great time all around, she slept over at my house but we went to hers in the morning so she could make us breakfast. We were planning on watching a movie afterwards, and when I advised doing it back at my house she sarcastically asked if it's beause her house is dirty/lame compared to mine. I scoffed it off, we went out so she could walk her dog and when we were back in front of her house I said "leave the dog, take the keys and come back to my house, I'll be there". She straight up said "No." Okay, see you soon then, and I started walking back home. She stopped me for a second visibly flabbergasted and asked "Seriously??", to which I replied something like "Yeah, I don't understand, do you want me to wait for you or?", and she just went back inside saying "nevermind then".

I sent her a random message a few hours later, not knowing that it was seemingly a big deal for her - she ghosted me, it's been 8 days without a reply now. Do I call to see what's up? I have a feeling if I don't this might be the end, and it's a really retarded thing to end the relationship over. On the other hand, what if it's just a shittest? Do I wait?

To answer my own question, calling her this one time might not be too beta of me but definitely hardnext it it happens again

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Theolympicnomad

Need insight for my LTR (bedroom question)

Me and my LTR have been together for years now and we have two toddlers 2 year old and a one year old.

My question is if Im handling this correctly. So what this girl would do is, all day when I'm off work and we’re home together what she would do is like tease me throughout the day and always “seed” that we’re gonna have sex later tonight when the kids go to sleep.

She’s always like this off and on but now its been a few weeks she’s been doing this. She would tease me all day, shake her ass, try and randomly make out with me, grab my dick etc.

Then as you guys can predict night time comes around 11:30 - 12 and we’re putting the kids to sleep and then immediately she would go “ohh I’m tired too and my head/stomach hurts” and she would just lay down on her phone.

The way I USED TO handle this was just playing around with her on the bed and eventually just pulling my dick out and we get to fucking etc, sometimes with a little roleplay like “ohh we cant do this etc” whatever she likes it and i really don’t two shits so I play along.

However whats starting to happen is that her excuses every night become less “roleplaying” and more like LMR if that makes sense. Like she’ll tease all day and then as its leading up she would start to roll out excuses maybe an hour or two before we’re supposed to fuck.

So how I'm handling this now is for the past two-three nights whenever she starts to roll out the excuses I dont react emotionally i just start doing my own thing. I just leave her on the bed by herself and go into our second bedroom and just chill until im sleepy and then i go back into our bed when she’s asleep and just sleep. And she tries to cuddle me but i don’t cuddle her (i give excuses for that too like Im not in the mood etc but not in a butthurt way)

Then the next day I just mind my Business play with the kids a little and just do my own thing basically and pay her no mind. Now she tries to tease me and come up to me and try to kiss me but i either turn her down in like a “what are you doing?” Kinda way or just give her a dry peck and immediately turn and back to what i was originally doing. She’s just been getting ansty constantly asking me whats wrong etc and daying that she didn’t do anything wrong and even asked me if its because “she fell asleep and we didn’t fuck” I just played it cool and and said nah im just relaxing etc

Plus Ive been doing daygame pickup (how i met her) so i know i can always get another girl.

My question to you guys is am I doing the right thing and if not what should I change?

EDIT: Forgot to add to my first point. When I escalate past her “excuses” and we do fuck she had this “ughh ok fine lets get it over with” attitude EVERY TIME WE FUCK. Which is why im just commited to ignoring her flat out now.

First, before we delve into this, did you get the kids DNA tested to confirm your their sire?

@mattyanon after what, our honeymoon phase?

She hit menopause early, and her hormones crashed out. She stopped sleeping with me as much, then at all.

I blamed myself at first, and while trying to figure out where I went wrong, looked Roosh back up. He had helped me a lot around 2000-2002, but once I started hitting my stride I stopped reading his stuff or participating at his seduction BB. when I found him again, his writings led me to the Red Pill, but on blogs rather than on reddit. I read him, Roissy/Heartiste, Rollo, Dalrock, Athol Kay, and some others long before I ever found out what reddit really even was.

By the time I got on reddit (mainly for WAATGM, which I found out about through Dalrock's comments section), I'd mostly straightened out what I'd been doing wrong (beta-ization by a thousand concessions, and too much NiceGuy behavior) and just occasionally lurked MRP and TRP to fine-tune some things. I still find things to adjust, because learning never ends.

Also, she got on hormone therapy and got her shit mostly straightened out around when I was first unplugging (2013 or 2014 or so).

20 years married this past July. Partly thanks to Red Pill, more thanks to her hormone therapy, and mostly thanks to both of us being too bull-headed and stubborn to admit that we fucked up!